Today where everyone is talking about gender equality , feminism is on the rise , many feminists have turned up. The social media has been flooded with all kind of posts and sarcasm towards gender equality. Women are asking for liberty in every way in which men use to enjoy and they are getting full fledged support from the ‘ Modern Indian Men’, women have also started feeling the change in the winds and anticipating drastic change in the near future in terms of equality,
but hold on there is another side into it….
A huge contradiction is observed when it comes to ‘Virginity of women’. As today most of the Indian men desire for a ‘Virgin Wife’ and this desire in itself is the biggest inequality endorsed by men where men takes pride in loosing their virginity before marriage they still emphasize on a ‘Virgin’ life partner .
This desire for ‘Virgin Wife’ is empowered by nature in the form of “Virginity Test” in which the most common way of judging female’s virginity is the ‘Intact hymen’. The Hymen is a membrane that surrounds or partially covers the external vaginal opening. The virginity is judged on the assumption that the hymen can only be torn through sexual intercourse and during the first sexual intercourse rupturing of hymen is accompanied by bleeding which also marks the women’s virginity and the inequality lies in the fact that there is no way to judge a “men’s virginity”.
Do we hear women desiring for a “Virgin Husband”? just because there is no way to prove Men’s virginity? In a sex survey by India Today Group-MDRA 2013 it is shown that even though men are three times more likely to have premarital sex than women , they still desire to have a “Virgin Bride”.
In another survey done in Bengluru which says around 65% of the youngsters are enjoying live-in relationship and shocking 90% of them desired for a ‘Virgin Wives’.
Now the question remains why Men don’t talk about equality here? Why the virginity of the girl matters to them after marriage as they don’t hesitate a bit in premarital sex provided an opportunity? why the ‘Virginity’ of wives is still a serious discussion among the boys? why premarital sex is still a taboo for women? Why such double standard and hypocrisy is shown by men where they don’t hesitate to get into physical relationship with any girl of their choice but want a virgin wife for marriage?
Men If you are talking about the equality let it be in complete way.
Now would you still stand for gender equality?
Think!
By-Doozyden
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Firstly, please don’t generalize opinions based on a survey which is mere ‘likely’!
(4th para, 3rd sentence.)
Second, by the tone of your article, I could judge something and based on that, I would like to ask, “Is it men’s mistake if there is no way to check their virginity?”
You can very well BLAME GOD or scientists for this, but not men. Please. So stop doing this torture on yourself and others. But never mind, I still agree to your point to some extent for gender equality.
But don’t you think this mentality of yours would actually be a bane for virgin males who ‘actually’ wait till their marriage? Won’t they just get grind under this rant of equality. If they ask for a virgin bride, are they wrong OR why shouldn’t they ask for it OR how are they supposed to be opposing gender equality by saying this?
Now you might say that this article is all about men who have had premarital sex and not virgin males, but don’t you think this ‘jaago graahak jaago’ types article of yours would have an impact over them too? Just because they can’t be checked for their virginity, doesn’t mean they lose their point and accept whatever it is.
Now you may call this as the girl’s right (‘gender equality’) to her own decision or choice of losing virginity. But since its going to be a husband-wife affair, don’t you think it should be the husband’s choice as well? Otherwise wouldn’t it be the same hypocrisy the other way!
THINK!!
You should understand that now time is changing and there is a good % of men who understand this and don’t have this requirement. So what remains I guess is more a matter of choice. However, forceful choice is not acceptable. Men who are not virgin shall accept that its okay if their wives aren’t virgin, and they’re as open as them.
I appreciate your comment. I have mentioned in the article that the inequality is already done by the nature in the form of virginity test and it could be neutralized if men just don’t care about virginity but unfortunately by referring to various researches and data it is found that majority of the men do care about the virginity of the partner and it is generalized to every men because such mentality is found in majority and men waiting until marriage being virgin even if he gets a favorable chance to break virginity is very less.In most of the cases it’s always lack of opportunity which keeps most men virgin. I agree with your views about the men who genuinely want to be virgin and it would be inequality to them but theses type of men are very less in number i would peg them to 10% so in the article i didn’t take them into account.
you can do your own survey if you want:)
Thanx for your comment!
So basically, double standards are acceptable?
At least in India. This needs to be changed!